girliemoma

I am a 30 year old women with 3 beautiful little girls who are my world at this point in time.  I’ve been married for over 10 years to the same man whom I married at 19.  I was a night mare for my mother as a pre-teen and teenager and certainly never thought I’d be facing raising 3 girls of my own.  My girls are so similar to each other, but their differences far out reach the similarities!  My oldest Jordan came out with gorgeous red curls, big blue eyes and porcelain skin and to this day people stop me to comment on how striking she is!  She’s strong, independent and has no problem telling anyone she chooses what she’s thinking.  My just turned 6 year old Lulu is a beautiful blond with the same big blue eyes.  She started out with a receding hair line which made her sort of look like a little old man, it was super cute!  I often refer to her as my gentle old sole, she has a compassion and gentleness about her that’s far beyond her years.  My baby, oh my baby Payton,  she’s 2 1/2 and in many, many ways looks just like her big sister Lulu but she’s hell on wheels!  She’s a total lover and the biggest snuggle until she get mad or decides she wants something then there is no stopping the impending tantrum.

Jordan my oldest has always provided plenty of challenges being very independent and stubborn was hard enough then add in her ever changing emotions and moods and it is almost enough to throw a person over the edge!  She acts so tough to the outside world but as she’s gotten older and started school it became clear that it’s really just a front.  Under that shell she shows everyone she is deeply hurt by other peoples thoughtlessness and all the little girl drama.  Nothing breaks my heart more then her coming home from school up set because something or someone hurt her feelings.  We’ve had quite an issue with one girl in particular, unfortunately the problem started at home for this liitle one, as they usually do I suppose, thank goodness after struggling with these nasty people they are finally moving in just 2 weeks!!!  Yes, they are also my neighbors!  With the beginning of 3rd grade came some new issues mostly ones left over from not having a great 2nd grade teacher.  Things like her reading wasn’t quite where it needed to be and other issues that the second grade teacher neglected to mention until her last report card of the year!  So homework was a struggle every night and her nightly required reading was always a battle, but with time I found she was reading on her own and of her own free will again just for fun!  Thank goodness!  Jordan’s emotions have began to change constantly!  What the heck is going on with that she’s only 8 1/2 and being a summer baby she even a young 3rd grader.  Lately she seems to think she entitled to everything and she’s the boss. The boss of everyone, her sisters, her dad and of course me. We’ve mostly stoped letting her have friends spend the night because she acts so awful she really embarresses herself.  She just can’t seem to see it right now or at least stop her self once she’s in that mode of behavior.  I try to take a very calm and firm approach to handling her but her father gets frustrated very easily and she seems to totally disregard him in many ways.  I think part of the problem is that they are so much alike and often I have to stop him and remind him he’s the adult and to not stoop to her level, to be the example. Truthfully I feel like they are same age many times!  We let Jordan have a friend over this weekend and she acted like such a snot!  After track yesterday when I picked her up she told be the girlfriend who stayed the night was saying mean things about her.  I asked what kind of mean things she said that she’s rude and a brat for example.  How do I tell her, well kiddo you weren’t acting very good while she was over and she probably didn’t like it.  Some how for her own social well being I’ve got to try to get her to understand that letting a friend stay over lets them into your world and what ever she does or says can be taken and used against her at school later.  It’s a tough lesson and I sure wish she didn’t already have to learn just how people can really be, although this isn’t the first time a friend has turned on her that starts in kindergarten!

 That’s it for now gotta get the kiddos ready to go!  I’ll be back to vent more and talk about my other girls later.

Thanks,  Girliemomma

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